If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results…then maybe we have a higher percentage of crazies in this world than we realised.
It’s amazing how many people want to make a difference to their lives and they simply don’t understand why these changes aren’t coming,
My book Counterfeit Supergirl was written to help you change your life….but how does it work? The book is based on ten rules, all of which need to followed if you really want to get to where you want to be…..Follow the rules and you might just find yourself on the right path.
Leaps forward can come in any size.
Although no one ever achieved anything great by playing it safe, your life is not just one big gamble and therefore there are certain times when you need to take smaller steps. All these changes are potentially huge for you and are taking you into unknown territory and therefore shouldn’t be entered into lightly. There will be times when you feel hugely confident about your choices and are therefore willing to take a huge leap of faith however crazy it may seem to others. However, there will be other times when it is best to air on the side of caution. Some situations really need to be thought through and if the risk seems too big don’t be scared or embarrassed to take baby steps. This is your life that we’re talking about, no one else’s and only you will know the correct sized leap to take.
If you want to know the other rules….all you need to do is buy the book!
So it turns out that job hunting is a lot harder than I remembered. Or the economy out there has changed. I was well aware that I had stopped shopping as much as I used to, I just didn’t realise that this was having a negative effect on the whole country. What used to be a simple task has suddenly become an incredibly unfriendly field. Contacts that used to be interested were suddenly nowhere to be found and it really go me thinking. It’s so easy to make quick decisions about your future but they can often be made without thinking about the long term affect these changes could have on your life and any later decisions you may need to make. In situations like this I realise that I need to be thick skinned and resilient.
There is nothing wrong with making a decision which needs to be changed and updated. But there is something wrong with wallowing in self-pity when mistakes are made. Appreciate them for what they are. A learning curve. An opportunity to realise what works and what doesn’t. Mistakes are what make us human and life is all about learning. We were put on this earth knowing nothing and every situation allows us to move forward with experience and food for thought. So at this age, with my experience and wisdom (cough cough) I remind myself, never give up, face your fears and believe that you can make it happen. But most importantly, since you never know when you will need a strong economy….always buy the shoes.
I have been quite stressed recently about not being where I hoped to be in my career at this point in my life. A good friend recently said to me…your twenties are for having fun, your thirties are for getting yourself to where you want to be, your forties onwards are for reaping the benefits of all the hard work you have done for the last ten years. (Twenty if you were sensible, but most of us probably weren’t.) Her clarity on the situation did help me to put things into perspective. I of course was feeling as though I was the only one who hadn’t managed to achieve everything that I set out to do by this point in my life.
But as always, talking it out with those around you really makes you realise that pretty much everyone is in the same boat as you, some just manage to hide their problems better or put on a braver face. But realistically we are all constantly striving for something more than what we already have.
Sometimes you do need to look around you at what others are doing to get advice and inspiration from them. Making decisions that will have a big impact on your life can be hard, daunting and stressful. But surely it’s better to keep moving rather than just standing still? No matter how long the journey takes, if you want to have your feet up by fifty, sometimes you just have to persevere.
Self-motivation and change never ends. Just when you think you’ve managed to achieve everything you want, you realise that there is even more out there to go and grab. When I started to make a difference in my world I was spurred on by the need to leave my job and the superficial world in which I was living. Working in fashion may appear glamorous from the outside, but after years of climbing that ladder I was exhausted, and more than ready to jump off it. It had been fun, and while I was proud of everything I had achieved, I was desperate for a quieter and more tranquil life. Of course it was an idea I mulled over for years before I was brave enough to take my first steps, but leave I eventually did. I began retraining in massage and after months and years of learning to deal with being at the bottom again, I did eventually climb up, rung by rung.
With practice came experience, and with experience eventually came the confidence. Now your dreams and aspirations will of course be different to mine. But the point is you must always keep moving and building. The beginning plan is just that, a starting point. It is impossible to go from nothing to everything in one giant leap. Normally you need to break the plan down into bite size chunks. If you can feasibly see how you are going to achieve your wish, if it is manageable, you are far more likely to achieve it than fall short.
Now I was most definitely at the back of the queue when God was handing out patience, but one thing this process has really taught me, is not to rush. If you really want to succeed and be brilliant at something than trying to be a jack of all trades will not get you far. Never move on from the current part of your plan until you are totally convinced that you are ready. Perfect something, be amazing at it before you move onto the next step. Only this will set you apart from the rest.
People rush all too often in life, and this is where we make mistakes. Remember the race between the tortoise and the hare? That’s not to say you should be lazy and go at a snail’s pace, but taking things slowly gives you the time not only to enjoy the experience but also to take everything in and learn from it.
‘Welcome back to my world. I guess we have both returned for more help. Although Counterfeit Supergirl has started to make a difference in all of our lives and made our hopes and ambitions a little clearer we are still a little lost on the road to perfection. Firstly we must remember no one but you can really make the turnaround that you need, don’t expect others to do the job for you, although they certainly can help along the way. Listen to advice, it can often come from the strangest and most unexpected places but that doesn’t mean it can’t help. But always remember no one is one hundred percent content with their lives. Even when you have decided what needs to be different and begin moving in that direction, I can assure you there will still be parts of your life that need to be tweaked and changed.’
‘As human beings it is our nature to always want more and to never be fully satisfied. But don’t be ashamed of this, this want for more is what pushes and drives us to be the best that we can be. The great desire to always know that we are capable of even more, that our lives could be even better, is what will help us achieve and change. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t be proud of how far you have come. Think back to a year ago or even more and remember the person that you were. Remember the place you were in and then compare that to how far you have come. Can you even recognise yourself? Can you even relate to the old you anymore? Chances are that you haven’t even realised how much you have achieved and how proud of yourself you should be.’
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Ever feel like the world is badgering you to have a baby? While you may be lucky enough to be in a happy loving relationship with your very own gentleman, you still have the right to do things in your own time and in your own private way. Sometimes having your loved ones harp on in my ear about the perils of waiting too late can result in a GBH arrest.
It amazes me that people feel it’s acceptable to have that kind of conversation with you. Clearly I am aware that I have waited this late…otherwise I would already have kids in tow everywhere I went, and surely I would notice if they were missing! Therefore what exactly is the point of reminding me that I have waited? Do people think I have forgotten how old I am, or that I was never aware in the first place?
At a later age there are generally three reasons why you don’t have kids in tow. 1. You don’t want them….2. You can’t have them 3. You’re still waiting for someone half decent to have them with. But whichever category you fall in to, you can bet your bottom dollar that people asking you and pushing you for when you’re going to have them, will do nothing but piss you off. So for next few months I have a new plan. For every time someone asks me, I will respond back in the same manner, by asking them a deeply personal questions that will also make them want to punch me in the face. Sounds like a fair bargain.